Christopher Voss - Never Split the Difference Flashcards

(20 cards)

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What is the main idea that negotiation is present in everyday situations?

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Negotiation is everywhere, including salary talks, relationships, and purchases. Understanding this gives you power.

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According to Voss, how do humans make decisions?

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Humans aren’t rational; we make decisions emotionally first and then rationalize.

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What is Tactical Empathy?

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Understanding and acknowledging what the other person feels, showing you see their world. This builds trust and opens dialogue.

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Define Mirroring in negotiation.

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Mirroring is repeating the last few words or key phrases another person says to encourage them to elaborate.

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What is the purpose of Labeling in negotiation?

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Labeling helps to name emotions or fears, which defuses tension.

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True or False: Saying ‘no’ is considered a failure in negotiation.

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False. Saying ‘no’ often starts the real negotiation and makes people feel safe.

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What are Calibrated Questions?

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Questions that give the other side the illusion of control while nudging them toward revealing important information.

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Fill in the blank: Anchoring involves using ______ to set the zone for discussion.

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[anchors]

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How does the idea of ‘fairness’ affect negotiations?

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‘Fair’ carries heavy emotional weight and can shift negotiation dynamics.

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What are Black Swans in negotiation?

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Hidden variables unknown at first that can change the game when uncovered.

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What is a key actionable item for preparing for negotiations?

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Prepare a negotiation one-sheet outlining desired outcomes and likely objections.

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How can you use Mirroring in conversations?

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Repeat the last 1-3 words someone says with an upward tone and then pause.

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What should you do when someone expresses their emotions during a negotiation?

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Label their emotions to validate them and build trust.

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What is an example of a calibrated question?

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‘How am I supposed to do that?’ or ‘What’s the biggest challenge here?’

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What should you do if someone says ‘no’ during a negotiation?

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Re-frame questions so ‘no’ is a safe option to reduce pressure.

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Why is it important to use the concept of ‘Fair’ carefully?

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It leverages the emotional power of fairness and reveals hidden concerns.

17
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When should you search for Black Swans during negotiation?

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During negotiation or listening, pay attention to small details and hidden motives.

18
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List some situations where negotiation techniques can be applied.

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  • Salary or promotion discussions
  • Client negotiations / pricing
  • Conflicts at work or home
  • Sales / deals with pushback
  • When someone seems stuck or defensive.
19
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What does Voss suggest about not settling in negotiations?

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Never split the difference; creative solutions often come from risk and conflict.

20
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What is the significance of the quote ‘Great negotiators seek ‘No’ because they know that’s often when the real negotiation begins’?

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It highlights that saying ‘no’ can lead to deeper discussions and uncover real issues.