passive
ignoring your own needs/rights
avoiding conflict
passive-aggressive
manipulating or blaming inappropriatley gets own way
unpredictable
aggressive
getting your own way at the expense of others creates conflict
assertive
saying what you want but not at the expense of others
- can negotiate and compromise
3 principles of assertiveness
3 steps to assertiveness
what type of statement is assertive
assertive ‘i’ statements
broken record technique - for difficult situations
calm model
C - clarify
A - address
L - listen
M - manage