Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy
foundational roots of forgiveness, ethics, fairness, and morality,
Contextual family therapy is a nondirective form of therapy that, through promotion of mutual understanding and trust, fosters a dialogue between family members and makes change possible
Every relationship has a ledger of indebtedness and entitlements.
disturbances in individuals and families are an expression and a consequence of an imbalance in giving and taking, entitlement and fulfillment, particularly in the realm of caring.
tries to balance the ledger of merits and demerits by establishing a sense of mutual responsibility. When a family works on increasing fairness in their relationships, problems or symptoms will decrease. Fairness is based on a true understanding of the other’s side, being responsible and accountable for one’s own behaviors, and taking action to correct mistakes.
The ledger is balanced when the relationship is fundamentally built on equitability.
Children should also not be required to sacrifice loyalty to one parent in order to remain loyal to the other, also called split filial loyalty