1
Q
What are some essential components of explanations when explaining divorce to children?
A
– Explanations are more acceptable if they are systems-oriented (i.e., the relationship didnot work), rather than if they blame either parent.
– Parents should emphasize that the divorce will not weaken their relationships with the
child
2
Q
How can therapists address parents’ badmouthing?
A
- To address badmouthing, counselors can say to parents that the ex-spouse is “the only
mother/father the child has, so it hurts to hear bad things about her/him.”
– The “truth” of derogatory statements is less important than their harmful effects on the child.
3
Q
what is the purpose of individual therapy with a child whose parents are divorcing?
A
to help her construct an emotionally an acceptable understanding of the new family arrangements that accepts the finality of the divorce and maintains attachments to both parents.
