In American funeral customs, there are several basic areas considered to be accepted practices. What are these areas?
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List the basic cultural information about the national character of the United States.
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List the Determinants of Grief
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Normal Coping Behaviour
as a Determinate of Grief
A person will normally respond the same way to different stressors. That is why it is important for those counseling the grieving to know about past coping behaviors.
Number of previous losses and deaths
As a determinate of grief
Grief can be cumulative. Experiencing one loss does not necessarily make adjustment to the next loss easier.
Grief overload
As a determinant of grief
A person can experience too many losses in a given period of time. This overload often manifests itself in what others consider an exaggerated response to the most recent loss. (Losses need not be the same type; death, divorce, moving to a new home, etc.)
Concurrent stressors
as a determinant of grief
Similar to grief overload, a person experiencing multiple stressors at once may not react with their usual “together” response.
Expectations of local, cultural, and religious groups
as a determinant of grief
Grief is an individual response – everyone responds differently. However, part of our response is determined by what is expected of us by members of important groups in our lives.
Available support network
As a determinate of grief
The more positive support a grieved has, the more positive his adjustment to the death will be.
Gender conditioning
as a determinate of grief
Males expected to be strong. Females are taught sadness and crying are more acceptable than anger.
Physical and mental health
As a determinate if grief
The fact that you can contribute to ill health, both physically and mentally, makes the state of health of an individual at the time of a death an important factor in determining the outcome of the experience.
Pre-death adjustment time
As a determinate of grief
Having time to prepare for a death has both positive and negative outcomes for an individual.
Positive: ability and opportunity to tell the dying person things you want him to know.
Negative: watching the person suffer and waste away
Unfinished business with the deceased
As a determinate of grief
Arguments or ill-feelings left unattended with the intention of working them out later will remain unfinished after a death, making the adjustment more difficult.
Secondary losses
As a determinate of grief
Secondary losses come along with primary loss (the death of the person). They include things like the loss of a breadwinner leading to a loss of tuition, transfer to a different school, or moving all together.
Importance of the relationship
As a determinate of grief
The psychological intensity if the pre-death relationship between the deceased an the mourner will influence the mourner’s response.
The “family tree” may not be the determining factor. The most important factor is the quality of the relationship in emotional terms.
Age of the deceased
As a determinate of grief
Generally people feel the death of a child or adolescent is the most tragic type of death. The old are expected to die and the death of an infant of a stillborn deserve less grief because of the misconception there was too short a time for bonding to take place.
Fulfillment of dreams
As a determinate of grief
The reason we feel the death of young people is so tragic is because they have not lived long enough to fulfill their dreams and experience life. Can also be felt with adults who have not accomplished their goals.
Accidents - Facts
Homicide - Facts
Recovery from a homicide doesn’t seem to even start until a number of events take place. List them.
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Grief response after suicide.
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Sudden unexpected death of a seemingly healthy infant between four months and one year age for which no other cause of death has been found after thorough examination of the death scene, review of medical history, and a complete autopsy.
Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) / Crib Death
An occurrence of a severity and magnitude that normally results in death, injuries, property damage, cannot be managed through the routine procedures and resources of the government.
Disaster
An act or practice of allowing the death of a person suffering from a life limiting condition.
Euthanasia