name some factors that affect attraction
- proximity
- mere exposure
- isolation anxiety: don’t wanna be left alone
- similarities
- compensatory hypothesis/complementary needs: opposites attract
- reciprocity of liking: like that they like us
What are Shutz’s three basic needs
- inclusion (involvement)
- affection (affiliation)
- control (dominance)
why do you choose your romantic partner with an evolutionary approach
-attributes most successful to pass on
-love is only for reproduction
-to reproduce successfully must meet requirements
(ie healthy, cooperative, resources, etc)
define self-disclosure
a self description that you’re comfortable telling other people
what is genuine self disclosure
the person actually feels like info they told was personal/risky
what is apparent self disclosure
reveal of something they think isn’t risky but others believe it is
why don’t we self disclose sometimes
- risk: not always positive outcomes.
- too vulnerable
- appropriateness:time/context
who are 3 targets of self disclosure
- friends
- parents
- strangers
What is the difference in our attributional analysis between self disclosing to a friend vs a stranger
- more likely to have positive self attribution w/ friend and “other neutral” or “other negative” with stranger.
what were the differences in gender when self disclosing
women disclose more but it is minimal difference
what are some reasons for relational dissolution
- conscious choice
- atrophy
- separation
- death
what are some characteristics of the leaver in relational dissolution
- most responsible for end
- biggest role in making it clear
- may feel guilty/uncertain
- can have negative consequences but more prepared
- usually looked more down upon, unless explained why they left
what are some characteristics of the left in relational dissolution
- person dumped
- may feel traumatized/rejected
- suffer more depression
- can have negative consequences
what are some emotional impacts of relational loss
- no loss, w/ person forever
- fate, sig other killed
- rejection, end of relationship
- rival, doesn’t want, falls in love w/ sum1 else
which relational loss will cost the most loneliness
fate
why is it more beneficial for kids to grow up w/ two parents
- economic (2 incomes)
- more stable household
- parents not absent
what do children do to a marriage
- negative associations w/ having kids
- happier when they leave but never back to original happiness
- difference in raising, labor, etc.
Explain Fitzpatrick’s typology or marital couples
- couples are all different
- how time is spent determines how goals are achieved
- components of happiness:
(a) marriage and family life
(b) work that allows some autonomy
(c) philosophy about the meanin of life and your role
what are 3 basic underlying conceptual dimensions that couples can be classified into?
- autonomy/independence
- conventional/unconventional ideology
- conflict engagement/avoidance
what is an autonomy/independent martial type
- deals w/ connectivity
- measures sharing/companionship
- stronger togetherness
what is a conventional/unconventional ideology in marital types
how ppl make compromises in believes, standards, values, etc.
what is a conflict engagement/avoidance in marital types
- assertive/engage: will engage in conflict wherever (ie public)
- avoidance: concern w/ feeling, cause no harm
