Centuries ago, was love imporant for marriage?
No, it was irrational and would destroy a marriage. Marriage was economic
What are the three aspects of Sternberg’s triangular theory of love
Intimacy, commitment, passion
Intimacy:
feelings of warmth, trust, support
Commitment:
Stability, permanence
Passion:
Physical arousal, desire, needs - any strong emotional need that is satisfied by one’s partner fits this category
Empty love:
Only commitment
Infatuation:
only passion
Liking:
only intimay
Fatuous love:
Passion + commitment
Romantic love
Passion + intimacy
Consummate love
Intimacy, passion and commitment
companionate love
Intimacy and commitment, a long, happy marriage in which the couple’s youthful passion has gradually died down
Does love change over time?
Yes, while consummate love is the best, it is not sustainable
Three aspects of love that the body responds to
Lust, attraction, attachment
Physiology of lust
Regulated by hormones, drives reproduction and sex
Physiology of attraction
Regulated by dopamine that drives bonding and excitment
Physiology of attachment
regulated by oxytocin that creates feelings of comfort
How does arousal impact feelings
Can be positive or negative, arousal leads to stronger feelings - adrenaline fuels love
Rubin’s love scale
Intimacy( same as Sternberg), caring, dependence (same as passion)
Describe compassionate love
committed, deep friendship, long-lasting satisfied relationships, concern for well-being, associated with more satisfaction and commitment over time
Romantic vs companionate love
Romantic: strong emotions, idealization
Companionate: close, comfortable
Factors influencing love (8)
Culture, attachment, type of relationship, length of relationship, personal beliefs, age, experience, proximity/location
How do lovers think about their partners?
View them in a positive light, ignore alternatives, make us view ourselves positively
Caring:
Romantic lovers report concern for the welfare and well-being of their partners
