Importance of IPC
- allos us to establish/maintain/end connections
- enables us to change and progress
- purposeful and functional
- liberating and limiting
Communication is defined as
process through which people use messages to generate meaning within across contexts, cultures, channels, and media
5 components of Comm
- message: info we relay
- interaction: people exchange a series of messages
- context: situation and setting that influence how we communication
- channel: sensory way we transmit info (sound, sight, touch)
- media: tools for exchanging messages (email, text message)
Interpersonal Comm is defined as
dynamic form of comm between two (or more) people in which messages exchanged significantly influence their thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and relationships
Principles of IPC
- Conveys content and relationship info(ex. mom calling you with a nickname)
- can be intentional or unintentional
- can be irreversible
- can be dynamic
- is intertwined with ethics and moral principles
- is not a panacea(ex. not a solution for everything)
IPC Competence
ethical interactions that are effective at achieving a certain goal and in ways that are also appropriate to the context in which the interactions occur
Appropriateness
degree to which you comm matches situational, relational, and cultural expectations
High self-monitors versus low self-monitors
high: poses the ability and desire to alter their behaviors to fit any type of social interaction
Low: don’t asses their own comm (act like themselves)
effectiveness is the
ability to use comm to accomplish goals
3 types of IPC goals
- self-presentation goals: to present yourself in ways so that others perceive you as being a particular type of person
- instrumental goals: to accomplish or obtain something through a particular interpersonal encounter
- relationship goals: to build, maintain, or terminate bonds with others
Maslow Hierarchy of needs: ego needs, social needs, and security needs, physical needs
self actualizing needs: unique abilisties and best efforts
- ego needs: respect and admiration
- social needs: satisfying and healthy bonds
- security needs: safety and job security
- physical needs: air, foods, water, shelter (fundamentals)
to behave effectively, appropriately, and ethically in a given context, we need: knowledge, motivation, and skill
Knowledge: cognitive info you need to have about people and context to be able to say and do procedures to be performed
Motivation: degree to which people are drawn to or pushed away from comm competently in a given context
Skill: actual performance of the behaviors that are deemed appropriate and effective
context
boundaries we perceive that help us know what the comm is and what it is suppose to be
ethics
set of moral principles that guide our behaviors toward others
self defined as
who we are, how we perceive ourselves, and how we feel about ourselves
-self can change, it is not fixed or static, and it is multifaceted
3 components of self
- self awareness: the ability to view yourself as a unique person and then reflect on your thoughts, feeling, and behaviors
ex. social comparison: what we engage in when comparing ourselves to others - self -concept: our overall perception of who we are as influenced by beliefs, attitudes, and values we have about ourselves
ex. looking glass self: how our self concept is influences by what we believe others think of us
ex. self-fulfilling prophecies: predictions about future interactions that lead us to behave in ways that ensure the interaction unfolds as we predicted - Self-esteem: the overall value that we assign to ourselves
ex. self-discrepancy theory: suggests that your self esteem is determined by how you compare to your ideal self and out self
self-fulfilling prophecies
predictions about future interactions that lead us to
self-discrepancy theory
suggests that your self esteem is determined by how you compare to your ideal self and out self
looking glass self
how our self concept is influences by what we believe others think of us
social comparison
what we engage in when comparing ourselves to others
Johari Window
look at book
4 Attachment Styles: secure, preoccupied, dismissive, and fearful
- Secure: individuals are low on both anxiety and avoidance; they are comfy with intimacy and seek close ties with others
- Preoccupied: adults are high in anxiety and low in avoidance; they desire closeness but are plagued with fear of rejection
- Dismissive: they view close relationships as comparatively unimportant, instead prizing and prioritizing self reliance
- fearful: adults are high in both attachment anxiety and avoidance; they fear rejection and ten to shun relationships
Face
we present a public self- our face- that we want others to see and know (corky, upbeat or cool and level headed)
Mask
public self designed to strategically veil your private self; can be dramatic, subtle (parents not looking worried in front of kids)
