Benefits of examining how we may be wrong about a situation?
Understanding multiple perspectives in order to actually push for change
How do we train ourselves to learn how to think?
Looking at obstacles or unexpected outcomes to see what changes can be made
Reframing negative thoughts or trying to direct away from them entirely, begin shifting your thoughts shifts your beliefs and reality, even having a routine that interferes with negative thoughts or considers the beneficial side of it
Most fulfilling definition of success and self work?
How you expand in the moment, not external validation or achievements
only framing past in how it helped you evolve, what you choose to recall indicates current state of mind
Self Work is understanding how you feel about negative parts of self, understanding work is necessary and that you have flaws, being honest with self about “failures” and using them to work on flaws
Interpretation of fear, think of what scares me
Meaning you want to do something, if not you would be indifferent, and often creating excuses for something - avoidant
Relationship, trying out for singing group all scares me tbh
Marcus Aurelius about obstacles and fearful way
What stands in the way becomes the way , meaning actions that solve problems are what really change our thinking
What can my routine look like, the benefits of it?
Letting conscious decisions _
Even traveling or something every few months
regulates a need for gratification, and this can contribute to mood which forms personality if for an extended time
What routines feel best for me?
Helping your mood if you do what you actually say
conscious decisions should run your day to improve your mood, not based on impulse, which also calms our nervous systems
Experiencing what we already have in new ways
How can I do this
Thinking everything happens _ or _ you are both equally delusional and self aggrandizing / narcissistic
happens for you / revolves around you or against you (victim mentality)
People with what type of mentality will often become great
Those who see how they can always improve and don’t believe they will be great, and use this as motivation
You can still accept life without notable success in life
Gist of neural restructuring
Changing how you speak to yourself to change your brain and energy
Brain thinks negative emotions associated with event are reality , neural networks firing same negative emotion tied to events and repetition makes us think this is true
- awareness of negative thoughts
- affirmations, self talk etc. to begin firing a new network each time thought arises, and weakening other network, visualization to produce emotional intensity, your thoughts will align with new emotions that produce new events in quantum fields
What problems should I take responsibility for? What makes us miserable?
Even some problems not at fault for
We LET our circumstances make us miserable
People may be to blame but never responsible for your misery
Values determine
Nature of our problems and quality of lives, and standard we’re using to judge ourselves and others
e.g. we care about some stuff mostly because of being perceived by others and wanting to make legacy after death or something, keeping death in mind at all times to not care about our perceived problems (Stoicism)
Rewiring _ and _ are just as important as taking aligned action with who you want to be
Rewiring thoughts and beliefs
Most uncomfortable _ are _
answers are most likely true, like changing your view of your relationships
Sustain elevated emotions towards a clear intention, how can I do this?
practicing gratitude, and when negative thoughts come in
also gratitude for different thoughts, sensations, and little moments
redirect/completely change them and push aside negative thoughts
meditate to get a more specific frequency
Attitude towards past and life
don’t need to condone, but release, breath to connect yourself to present, and understand that it doesn’t define you and your future
life does suck sometimes and just accepting the present in that sense and not running away but gaining wisdom while solving problems
free up space to be open to new things when not thinking about what you regret in past and operate from a more sound place
Indicator and example of good values
created internally, not based in anything external, reality based, socially constructive
e.g. honesty, vulnerability with yourself, releasing care for what others think, charity, humility, helping others, standing up for others, innovating, self respect, creativity
Taking responsibility for all events in life
Uncertainty constant doubt in own beliefs (in the sense of being open to new perspectives)
Contemplation of one’s own mortality
choosing problems wisely (problems out of control suck)
how we interpret what happens to us and how we respond (largely responsible for experiences)
Success comes while acknowledging what you are like, not necessarily trying to perform at all, stop hating yourself for feeling bad
When to actually take action
_ of alternatives is often the path to happiness
after taking deep breaths, asking if it’s something you can control which will benefit you and taking aligned action
Is this spot true/helpful/leading me where I want to go and most of the time the answer is no
operating in presence of problems is peace and acting in spite of anxiety, might mean you really want and like something
rejection of alternatives
Choosing to reject all, but the best people and experiences in your life is what will open you up to the best returns. You do not get the best returns by trying too many new things and not sticking to anything.
Better ways to get inspiration
Counting anything as an action progressing you to where you want to be, even one tiny thing will leave you feeling more inspired
Just doing something is metric of success
Buddhism meditation
preparation for death - only question mattering is what is your legacy
Affirmations
I am capable of the change required to become the person I want to be, but right now is where I’m meant to be
I recognize the little moments where I know that I am SUCCESSFULLY fighting for my growth
By redirecting and choosing other thoughts I strengthen positive, new neural pathways and weaken other pathways, because I am not defined by my past
Challenge and replace habitual thoughts
When reframing thoughts and behaviors such as _, they will become more natural over time
breathing deeply and slowly to calm my nervous system will happen over time
breathe and pause before reacting
Not immediately finding passion but trying to base work on _
finding where skills are applied very well and letting the passion be developed, if going to burn out morally anyway
Not completely ditching your passion but applying in a meaningful way that will also support you
What can I do right now?
Feelings of guilt, sadness, loneliness, and restlessness may indicate?
Continue trying things that might pique interest outside of what I’ve studied and meeting myself where I am
not trying to waste time perfecting information that I might not feel aligned with anyway
moving away and exploring something different (new place, jobs, hobbies and people) but also taking time to connect to myself, accepting where I am and scheduling time to connect with myself
