young boy develops intense sexual love for his mother and because he sees his father as a rival he want rid of him
The father is much bigger and more powerful so that the child develops a fear that his father will castrate him
Its impossible to live with the castration threat and so the boy develops a defence mechanism called ‘identification with the aggressor’ were he stresses all the way that he is similar to his father adopting his fathers attitudes mannerisms and actions
He feels if his father sees him as similar to him he will not be hostile