Relationships (U4)

Question 1

Where does teen violence often happen?

Answer 1

Teen dating violence often takes place at the home of their partners

Question 2

In an unhealthy relationship, one partner…

Answer 2

• Is isolated from friends, family and acitives
• Uses guilt to control partner
• Trying to embarrass partner especially in front of friends
• Tells them what clothes to wear and not wear, makeup, etc.
• Makes all the decisions
• Uses jealousy to justify actions
• Always wants to be together
• Doesn’t let partner talk or be seen with the opposite sex

Question 3

Types of abuse?

Answer 3

Physical, emotional, sexual, economic, isolation, social status, verbal, harassment

Question 4

Examples of physical abuse?

Answer 4

Pushing, shoving, hitting, kicking, biting, pulling hair, throwing, stomping, cutting, grabbing, punching, choking, using a weapon, not letting you sleep

Question 5

Examples of emotional abuse?

Answer 5

Put downs, calling names- stupid, ugly, fat, crazy, etc., playing mind games, making you feel crazy, making you always feel wrong, humiliating you, not allowing any privacy

Question 6

Examples of sexual abuse?

Answer 6

Rape, forced intimacy

Question 7

Examples of economic abuse?

Answer 7

Controlling someone’s money without their consent, taking someones paycheck

Question 8

Example of isolation abuse?

Answer 8

Using jealousy, preventing you from going out, getting a job, going to school, seeing your family and friends, intimidating family and friends so they won’t see you anymore

Question 9

Example of social status abuse?

Answer 9

Using your background against you (sexism, homophobia, racism, anti-immigrant)

Question 10

Example of verbal abuse?

Answer 10

Aggressive/demanding communication, non-affirming, name calling, silencing you

Question 11

Examples of harassment abuse?

Answer 11

Nagging, threatening, being forceful/won’t let up, aggressive

Question 12

What are the three stages of the cycle of abuse and violence?

Answer 12

1. Tension building
2. Explosion
3. Honeymoon

Question 13

What can an abuser do in stage one of violence?

Answer 13

• Pick fights
• Act jealous and possessive
• Criticize, threaten
• Drink, use drugs
• Be moody, unpredictable

Question 14

What can a victim do in stage one of violence?

Answer 14

• Feel like he/she is walking on egg shells
• Try to reason with the batterer
• Try to calm the abuser
• Try to appease the batterer
• Feeling afraid or anxious

Question 15

What can an abuser do in stage two of violence?

Answer 15

• Verbal abuse
• Sexual assault
• Physical abuse
• Increase control over money
• Restrain partner
• Destroy property, phone
• Emotionally Assault

Question 16

What can a victim do in stage two of violence?

Answer 16

• Experience fear, shock
• Use self-defense
• Call for help
• Try to flee, leave
• Pray for it to stop

Question 17

What can an abuser do in stage three of violence?

Answer 17

• Ask for forgiveness
• Promise it wont happen again
• Stop drinking, using drugs
• Go to counseling
• Be affectionate
• Minimize or deny abuse

Question 18

What can a victim do in stage three of violence?

Answer 18

• Forgive
• Return home
• Arrange for counseling
• Feel hopeful
• Feel manipulated
• Blame self
• Minimize or deny abuse

Question 19

Ingredients for a healthy realtionship?

Answer 19

Mutual respect
Trust
Honesty
Support
Fairness/Equality
Separate identities
Good communication

Question 20

What do both partners have in a healthy relationship, in terms of communication?

Answer 20

• Can share their feelings and needs
• Are equally committed to the relationship
• Can share person with other without feeling jealous
• Are willing to compromise
• Do not lose sight of who they are
• Share a basic value system
• Have common goals and a sense of direction

Question 21

What do both partners have in a healthy relationship, in terms of respect?

Answer 21

• Can share their sexual history
• Respecting each others sexual boundaries
• Are able to say no to sex

Question 22

What to do if a friend needs help (four)

Answer 22

Approach your friend and say, “I’m worried about you because …”

Listen and believe what your friend tells you. Don’t judge or blame. Say, “this is not your fault.”

Show concern.

Offer support. “What can I do to help?”