What are the 3 Pillars?
- Same-Side
- Collaborative Solutions
- Learned Responsibilities
What does the Same-Side Pillar mean?
The teacher feels and communicates to the disruptive student that he is on the same-side with the student, wants to team up with the student, identifies with the student, and understands where the student is coming from.
How does the Same-Side Pillar contribute to a Win-Win approach to discipline?
- Teacher communicates and models respect and understanding.
- Teacher creates a “we” feeling so students are less likely to be confrontational.
- Teacher fills the student’s need for recognition and attention.
- Teacher opens student/teacher communication and more fully understands the position of the student.
- Teacher is in a position to team up with the student to co-create discipline solutions.
What does the Collaborative Solutions Pillar mean?
The student and teacher share the responsibility of co-creating discipline solutions. The discipline solution is not imposed on the student. It is something the student helps create.
What does the Learned Responsibilities Pillar mean?
The discipline solution leads to critical new learning for the student. The student learns more responsible behaviors to meet his/her needs, so disruptions are less likely in the future. It is the ultimate goal of win-win discipline. This demonstrates that students have attained self-management and are responsible enough to behave correctly in the classroom.
How does the Collaborative Solutions Pillar contribute to a Win-Win approach to discipline?
- Students are much more willing to adhere to a rule or norm they have helped created.
- During collaborative involvement in solving the problem, students focus on the need for the solution they can more fully identify with and embrace the solution.
- Co-creation of solutions is helpful in meeting the needs of students seeking control.
- The true needs of students emerge in the process of collaborating to solve discipline problems.
- A positive atmosphere in the class is created as teacher and students work together, reinforcing the same-side pillar.
- Teacher is viewed as a friend.
- Democracy, caring, and mutual respect are modeled.
How does the Learned Responsibilities Pillar contribute to a Win-Win approach to discipline?
- Helping us as teachers to keep our eyes on the true goal of a successful discipline program.
- Life skills for students.
- Student independence and autonomy.
- Decreased disruptions over time.
- Increased academic success.
- Internalization of learned responsibility for students, not just rule conformity.
