Def of coaching
An on-going, intentional conversation that empowers a person or group to fully live out God’s calling.
Coaching assumptions (4)
- HS teaches- coaches seek to help coachee hear the HS
- all people have calling but may need clarity and growth in calling
- coachee-generated insights are most relevant and useful
- by coach tools, coaches can speed up and improve quality of coachee insights
The transformational formula
T= (D + A + R)^HS
T= (D + A + R)^HS
Transformation is the result of the sum of the discovery, action, and reinforcement multiplied by the power of the Holy Spirit.
80/20 rule
Coach listens 80% of the time; 20% of a half-hour is 6 mins of talking- with Qs, that’s 1 or 2 stories tops
WAIT
Why am I talking?
Reflective Listening
- taking something significant, summarizing it, and putting it out there tentatively—> others-centered listening
- imp to balance Qs w/reflective listening so not interrogation
- their discovery is more powerful than ur advice
- reflective listening good for conflict
COACH model
Connect Outcome Awareness Course Highlights
Connect phase Qs (2)
1- how are you?
2- what progress did you make on your action steps?
Outcome phase Qs (2)
What result would you like to take away from our convo today?
If I could help you with that, what kind of help would you want?
Awareness phase Qs (3)
What are the key points to understand this situation?
What are other factors are influencing this situation?
What else?
-lots of others-centered listening and listening to meaning of things
Course phase Qs (1)
What actions would you like to do to move forward?
Highlights phase Qs (1)
What would you like to remember from our conversation?
Determining Convo Outcome
Exploring Qs- What’s important to you about this?
Clarifying Qs- could u give me an example of that?
Focusing Qs- that’s a big topic, what part of that would you like to focus on today?
