Tier 1 - A
You live to serve my intense desire
I’m role playing that I have deep deep deep sexual and emotional needs. I have a powerful drive for these needs to be fulfilled to my satisfaction. You live completely to serve these needs. The more you fulfill them, the more they become needs for you, specifically, and the more bonded we become. You are completely devoted, and shed tears when you let me down until I make you atone, hold you and forgive you.
Applications
1. Ownership/Objectification (M/s, pet play, etc)
2. Service
3. Any kind of obedience
4. Primal
5. TRAINING
6. Beta/cuckquean
7. Free use
Tier 1 - B (7)
I’m Dangerous ; You Trust Me
I’m role playing that I am a ruthless, aggressive, domineering, sexually devouring. I am sadistic. And you fear me and still love and trust me enough to put everything you are into my violent hands.
Applications
1. Impact
2. Rough Body
3. CNC
4. Primal
5. Brat Taming
6. DD/lg
7. Free use
8. Many others
Tier 1 - C (9)
Build & Release Tension
You’re desperate for me because I give you so much sexual satisfaction, I’m kinkily role playing that I’m aloof and disinterested. (You need me, you want me, you’re desperate for me, and I have the power to not respond to you.)
Applications
1. Cuckquean/Beta
2. Tease & Denial
3. Degradation/humiliation
4. Service
5. Ownership (M/s, Pet play)
6. Chastity
7. Edging
8. Hypno
9. Many others
Tier 2 - W
You’re the Luckiest Girl, Because I Nurture You
You are just a little thing and you need someone strong and wise and brave who understands the world and can help you be the best little thing you’ve always wanted to be. You are the luckiest little thing on earth because you have a Daddy that cherishes you, nurtures you, drowns you in affection, and helps you do better and better every day. But he just needs you to do some special things for him when you’re alone. And you don’t think you’re supposed to, but you love what he makes you do, even when you hate it. And sometimes, he comes home, and it’s clear something in the big world made him very mad, and he’s so scary until you can help him take out all his anger on you. You know he’s not supposed to hurt you like this, but it just feels so good to be brave for him. More than anything, you love for the warm butterflies that come when he says “I’m going to keep you forever”.
Applications
DD/lg
Training
Brat Taming
M/s
Tier 2 - X
True Ownership
Of all the objects I possess, a wrench, a car, a leather chair, etc. your body and your entire sexuality can be my favorite or a worthless posession. It exists as a toy for me to give pleasure and pain to for the sake of my fun and entertainment.
Applications
- Free use
- Degradation
- Bondage
- Service
- Beta / Cuckquean
- M/s
Tier 2 -Y
Bow Before Your King
- You’re so lucky you can have a man that so many girls want. And you know you’re not good enough for him because you watch how hard he comes in all the other girls. You dream about the way he stares into your soul with their tight little pussies squeezed around his big thing. You rub and rub, and curl your fingers inside and you plead with him to let you cum. You can count the times he’s let you cum this year. No one has ever made you cum harder.
Applications
Cuckquean
Chastity
Edging
Tease & Denial
Degradation / Humiliation
Service
Tier 2 - Z
You Are Clay For Me To Mold
You have entrusted me with your mind. You want it to be completely different. And you realize you don’t deserve to be in control of it any more. Your whole life you’ve needed to put your mind completely in someone else’s capable hands who can shape it and mold it, so that it is simpler, lighter to live in, and opens you to pleasure, confidence and fulfillment.
Applications
- Hypno
- DD/lg
- M/s
- Dollification
My Limits (7)
- Scat (hard)
- Race play (soft)
- Most Public Play + Play Parties (hard)
- Illegal (hard)
- FinDom (short term hard, long term soft)
- Permanent Marking (short term hard, long term soft)
- Non-PRICK partners (hard)
Milestones in my BDSM biography (13)
- Jafar & Jasmine?
- Feeling not good about being dominated by stronger girls
- Sex encyclopedia
- The first thing I ever (coming to America)
- Anne, kissing lessons
- Krista, hair, handcuffs, lingerie, tongue stud
- 19-20 the loving Dominant, Conquer Me. Online forums websites.
- 22-23 Svetlana CNC & roleplay.
- 23 Started acquiring nice gear
- Got spiritual and did a lot of trying to date women I didn’t have great sexual compatibility with. Even dating women I wasn’t that attracted to.
- Spiritual development unleashing floodgates of sexual fantasy (non-repression)
- 30 years old. A year of celibacy and sexual awakening.
- Now, knowing that sexual compatibility and serious attraction are non-negotiables for me in long term monogamous partnership.
My Goals for Kink (3)
- Ever deepening trust in my romantic relationship. (You can’t feel more bonded without going through war)
- Profound sexual-romantic satisfaction
- Personal psychological healing and growth. Self-discovery, self-acceptance, self-expansion.
How I see the practice of kink (6)
- Mutual desire and fulfillment
- dominance should fulfill subs desires, give them positive memories, and leaves them better off. And all the same for me. - Safety
- SW: red orange yellow green “Color”
- “Difficulty” S, M, L, XL, XXL - Dominance & Submission
- Dominance are the behaviors and agreements that inspire& enable a partner to act on their submissive desires. - Consent
- one core mandatory method to deepen trust and strengthen D&/s - Building momentum
- many small wins is how it all begins. True of any new type of play. - Lifelong, Co-learning
- a constant area of dialogue about what you’re learning about yourself and about your partner. Amazing for mutual discovery and parallel exploration.
How I dance w emotional parentification & kink
- The psychodrama of PLAYING and dramatizing it is cathartic and affirming
- In D/s, my subs learn how important it is to be nurturing to me as part of their submission when I ask for it.
- This is where active dominance and passive dominance come in so handy. My ⬇️ and I can keep the passive dominance + active submission going. While I take a break for a few hours, or a week, from more active dominance. Like tapping a balloon to keep it afloat.
- This is why it is CRITICAL for my ⬇️ to have an excellent support network. All beings need rest. If I don’t feel like they CAN be supported while I rest, there will be a negative spiral. Just knowing the safety net is there takes the pressure off me, so I don’t feel “retraumatized”.
