attributes of friendships
affection, communion, companionship, respect, trust, capitalization, social support, responsiveness
friendship
a voluntary, personal relationship, typically providing intimacy and assistance, in which the two parties like one another and seek each other’s company
affection in friendships
they like, trust, and respect each other, and the value loyalty and authenticity, with both of them feeling free to be themselves without pretense
communion
partners give and receive meaningful self-disclosures, emotional support, and practical assistance, and they observe a norm of equality, with both partners’ preferences being valued
companionship
share interests and activities and consider each other to be sources of recreation
social norms that regulate friendships are…
less confining than those that govern romantic relationships
capitalization
the tendency to share good news with friends and receive enthusiastic, rewarding responses that increase our pleasure and enhance our relationships
social support
ways in which our intimate partners uplift us and provide us aid
types of social support
emotional support, physical comfort, advice support, material support
emotional support
form of affection, acceptance, and reassurance
physical comfort
form of hugs and cuddling
advice support
form of information and guidance
material support
tangible assistance in the form of money or goods
complexities involved in the manner in which social support operates in close relationships
invisible support
support that is subtly provided without fanfare and actually goes unnoticed by the recipient; best help
perceived partner responsiveness
the judgment that someone is attentive, respectful, caring, and supportive with respect to our needs and aspirations; powerfully rewarding; promotes intimacy, encouraging self-disclosure, trust, and interdependency
rules for relationships
shared cultural beliefs about what behaviors friends should (and should not) perform
friendship rules that appear to be universal
friendship in childhood
changes in interpersonal needs that accompany increasing cognitive sophistication in childhood
acceptance in elementary years
those who are not sufficiently accepted by their peers feel excluded
intimacy in preadolescence
sexuality during teen years
friendship in adolescence