Life lesson 101 - Dino
Sometimes people don’t dislike you they dislike the fact that you don’t need their approval
Life lesson 101 - Dino
Some people don’t want help they want saving - ME🤣🤣🤣
Life lesson 101 - Dino
People say they want honesty but they really want validation
Life lesson 101 - Dino
You don’t miss them you miss how they made you feel, the feeling that situation gave you
Life lesson 101 - Dino
A lot of the pressure you feel in your life comes from an imaginary audience you’ve created in your head
Life lesson 101 - Dino
If someone keeps misunderstanding you chances are they’ve already made up their mind about you so over communicating won’t help so it’s actually a form of begging trying to prove yourself
Life lesson 101 - Dino
The long route is usually the short route. Something I had to learn the hard way.
Prioritise your five-year plan, not a six month stint which is going to be multiplied by five because you’re gonna constantly be restarting
Life lesson 101 - Dino
Everything changes when you stop lying to yourself a lot of people are in denial about their financial situation but where their life is and also their insecurities
Dino - Consuming short form content excessively
Reduces activity in your pre frontal cortex which is responsible for your ability to focus
Therefore, you can’t lead the life that you want
The Truth About People-Pleasing
People-pleasing usually comes from a very understandable place:
• Wanting connection
• Avoiding rejection
• Growing up in environments where approval mattered a lot
The people who are meant for you stay when you’re authentic, not when you’re constantly accommodating.
Ironically, people often respect someone more when they have boundaries.
Dino - The real reason you struggle to change
When you constantly watch people online, your brain makes this association that they are perfect and you are not
When you’re trying to change and you know all of your problems you know all of your inadequacies you know who the wrong that you’re currently doing in your life you may look at someone like me and think he do anything wrong therefore you’re comparing yourself to a place that shouldn’t be compared
I’ll show guys what I want to show you guys if God exposed my book of deeds you guys may not view me the same way and that doesn’t take away from the persons message, I guess the point I’m trying to make all this when you’re trying to be good always acknowledge that it is your journey.
Try to do better one day at a time you know you get judged by your intentions and nothing else, but when you’re constantly watching people you kind of can tell yourself in your mind theres no hope for me that person‘s perfect they have all the answers.
Maybe God ordained that I live a life of sin which isn’t the case so let’s try to spread some positivity and lock in.
Dino - Male attention means nothing
Attention does not equal intention
Dino - the amount of good things in your life depends on your ability to notice them
The amount of good things in your life depends on your ability to notice them. That’s something this morning that I really profound because in a world where negativity in a world you’re constantly being bombarded with how evil and horrible the world is it’s very easy to forget about all the good things in your life and someone who is spiritual I know more grateful you are the more but maybe this world was constructed in a way to constantly make you focus on the lack by bombarding you with negativity so you don’t become appreciative you don’t become grateful who always remember good things in your life depends on your ability to notice them if you’re constantly consuming negativity surrounding yourself with negative people. How do you expect to acknowledge the good things in your life, so all I’m gonna say to you today all the good things in your life and I promise you the fact that you can watch this video means that you already in a blessed privileged position.
Dino - Repeat Daily
Write this down and repeat this every single day
I’m gonna help you you rewire your brain so you can become an action taker I trust myself to be okay even if things don’t go my way
Repeat daily
Why? A lot of you have things in your mind that you wanna chase. Let’s say a business you know exactly what to do you’re actually excited about starting the business but why is that you feel like there’s this weight on your shoulders? That keeps you paralysed? You’re scared you’re like this even though I know what I’m doing. Let me tell you a lot of you are scared that you don’t trust yourself yourself to be okay if things don’t go your way why is that the case? Because if you think within an amplifiers the insecurities that you already have or had I in adequate, I’m unintelligent people always said I’m gonna fail everyone’s gonna look at me and say I’m a feminine male if you’re gonna look at woman and say I knew you were gonna fail you should’ve just stuck to being a Mother no shade of Mother by the way we love them but you see my point you want to do what you wanna do you know exactly what you want to do. You have it all planned out you’re actually excited about it on your head. I’m scared that I don’t trust myself to be okay if it doesn’t work out so you have to remind yourself daily through the trust of God that I trust myself to be okay, even if if this doesn’t work out
Dino - ‘Ramadan feels off’
Should I tell you guys the real reason as to why this happens why everyone feels like this because this has nothing to do with Ramadan it has everything to do with your baseline level of stimulation matter fact I was reading a study recently I’ll put it right here and it was talking about how if you consume short form content excessively it reduces activity in your prefrontal cortex which is responsible for your ability to focus now let’s think about Ramadan.
Ramadan requires an intense amount of presence you need to put some time aside daily to repent and reflect to do some worship if you can’t do that outside of Ramadan meaning that you can’t sit down and read a book you can’t sit down and do something which requires some level of concentration.
Ramadan won’t make a difference and I guess this was the agenda overall make you addicted to short form content reduce activity in your prefrontal cortex.
You have no ability to think no ability to focus and then guess what? You can’t lead the life that you want
Dino - men intimidated by strong intellectual women
Why are some men intimdated by strong intellectual women and before you get emotional let me check mate this for you because a lot of men come on the Internet frame it as masculinity where they say if a woman’s intelligent you should stay away from her if a woman has an academic background she’s not wifey material where did this narrative come from? Because if we use the greatest example to have ever lived according to us Muslims which is the Prophet peace be upon him? Who were the women that he chose to marry I’ll name two Khadija and Aisha?
Khadija was an entrepreneur, a businesswoman who was about her wits so she was strong and intellectual
Aisha very interesting educated on Islamic principle and Hadith where even the companions of the Prophet would go to her for advice and knowledge even after he passed away which meant categorically she was strong and intellectual so where did this narrative change?
And where did it shift to women cannot be intellectual I would rather rather get a woman from the village.
Let’s debunk this because if we look at it from a historical point of view if you look at society, men were always needed by default because they were able to provide satisfy and I guess protect a woman because the state wasn’t able to protect a woman so by default men were needed without having any depth
A man didn’t need to develop himself to find a woman but as we progressed centuries later education be became accessible.
Women started earning and started having autonomy and that shifted massively but the thing is the men that didn’t develop depth failed to adapt now when you add cultural infusion and here’s where it gets messy
When you look at the Arabisation of Islam or you look at the south Asian influence on Islam where these cultures are predominantly built on purity and on culture you can see how insecurity has been passed down being framed as religious protection.
Your father is probably insecure your grandfather is probably insecure why?
Because they were taught your masculinity is tied to the asymmetry that you have with your partner meaning that the less your partner knows the less educated your partner is the more you are in control so masculinity was framed as control and you kind of see this seeping into the red pill rhetoric where they’re like when you’re with a partner you have to be able to dominate you have to be able to overpower here’s a check. I always push forward if you have to seeping into the red control someone you will never in control always always write that down if you have to control someone you are never in control why? Why?
Because if someone respect you you don’t need to control them and a lot of men fail to add that so now when you look at women and I’m talking about the healthy grounded religious spiritual women not the ones that are on the Internet that have taken the opposite stance of red pill where they’re brainwashing young girls.
I’m not talking about those people. A lot of men have felt adapt and they kind of frame it as religious protection where you can see in a lot of of these cultures it has effective young boys when a man is insecure and he hasn’t developed himself and he’s still still holding onto this idea that a marriage is built on controlled rather than mutual respect he comes on the Internet and he spew rhetoric like I wouldn’t want my woman to be educated. I wouldn’t want her to academic background. Here’s a disclaimer for anyone that thinks I am pushing a care woman you have to be with a careers woman, not necessary. A woman can be about her. She could be educated on religion. She could be educated on Fitness. she just has to have ambition meaning the inclination to learn and evolve if that intimidate you question your masculinity because in this day and women are doing decent they are autonomous a man went from being a necessity to being a choice in order for a woman to choose you, it has to be based on values and mutual respect.
Dino - Depression
It’s not depression if your life is depressing it’s not anxiety if your life is stressful sometimes we are so quick path to pathologise and diagnose people as if the problem is internal but sometimes the problem isn’t internal their life is just a mess
I went to therapy in 2019 because I convinced myself that I was depressed and there’s an important message here. I thought that my depression was the reason why I couldn’t do things turns out it was the other way round? I’ll call it situational depression. I had a really bad sleeping pattern. I would sleep incredibly late sometimes 67 in the morning sometimes 8 in the morning I would wake up at 3 pm. I would eat bad food food I would spend most of my time outside doing nothing. I’ll be on social media when I come home I wouldnt socialise with anyone and then then I used to go to sleep thinking I’ve got mental health problems that’s why I can’t do things its the other way round your lifestyle contributes towards your mental health because if you wanna look at it from a clinical point of view, mental health or depression for the most part comes from misalignment between your internal environment and your objective reality so let’s say I have a million dollars I have a loving wife I have kids and I’m still depressed. That’s something to look into maybe imbalance so when I look into that situation from the outside, I’m like your life‘s going really well why aren’t you content? Okay? Let’s dive into that but my life changed exponentially by the way the day I realised that by simply changing your lifestyle you’re mental health automatically gets better, if you improve or if you increase the amount of money you make your mental health get better if you improve your sleeping pattern you control what you consume in terms of what you eat and also what you watch and you try to socialise with people and you become more spiritual you end up realising that the whole time you are situationally depressed and the reason why I’m so vocal about all of these things is social media makes you feel like you have to ascribe yourself to a label because that’s what keeps you low vibrational
The reason why you can’t get out of it because you think you’ve got mental health problems that is why you can’t know because of your inability to do this is why you’re mental health is bad so reverse the order and watch how your life changes
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