3 causes of misunderstanding
Unspoken meaning (tone, pace, socially desirable)
Mishearing
Wrong interpretation
Roadblocks in good listening
Probing (asking q to gather facts
Advising
Reassuring
Agreeing
Directing
Persuading
Analyzing
Warning
Distracting
Moralizing
Judgeing
Shaming
Rogers’s three therapeutic conditions for positive change
Accurate empathy
Genuineness
Unconditional positive regard.
Affirmations
Simple; comment on particular client behavior
Complex; Focus on clients’ positive strengts and traits.
Genuineness
Congruence: intrapsychic component. Necessary but not sufficient for external manifestation: authenticity