why did Stephan lie
1.Felt pressure to come up with these exciting stories that were more interesting than others
2.Insecurity of self to make sure everyone likes him
4 reasons Stephan may be narcissistic
3 parts of dark triad
narcissism
Machiavellianism
psychopathy
Machiavellianism
Manipulative, callous, self-serving, strategic
Attraction Similarity Theory
– Assortative Mating
– We’re attracted to people like us
Complementary Needs theory
– We’re attracted to people whose personality
complements ours
– Opposites Attract
what do self report say people want in partners
-support for wanting Attraction Similarity Theory
- wanting people who correlate higher to them (women more than men)
what does self report say people actually have
people self report that their partners are not very alike
what may interfere with self report of correlation between partners
Due to reference group effect
– When judging our own personality, we
compare ourselves to people we spend time
with
how did a study deal with reference group effects
Behaviour on social media looking at likes
Is similarity related to relationship satisfaction?
Couples with similar personality traits are not necessarily more satisfied in their
relationship
what about similarity is correlated with relationship satisfaction
But, if your partner is similar to your “ideal
personality,” then relationship satisfaction is
higher
most sexually attractive emotion for women on men
pride
least sexually attractive emotion for women on men
happy
most sexually attractive emotion for men on women
happy
least sexually attractive emotion for men on women
pride
how does shame show as sexually attractive to both genders
Shame is attractive when shown by both genders
criticism vs complaint
criticism - global statement
complaints - specific statement
Criticisms (but not complaints) predict divorce
4 main factor that predict divorce
1.criticism
2.contempt
3.defensivness
4. stonewalling
ratio of good+bad interactions of a good marriage
5good interactions to 1 negative interaction
Baron-Cohen on gender
people with the female brain make the
most wonderful counselors, school
teachers, social workers and nurses.
People with the male brain make the
most wonderful scientists, engineers and
bankers
why might gender be such a dangerous topic
self-fulfilling prophecies
why might that gender difference is
due to genes hurt their performance in math
Lack of control
Gender Differences in Emotion
Women experience more negative
emotions
– Greater frequency
– Greater intensity