HDFS 1

Question 1

What is intimacy

Answer 1

6(7) characteristics
1. Knowledge 2. Caring 3. Interdependence 4. Mutuality 5. Trust 6. Commitment 7. Responsiveness

Question 2

Need to belong

Answer 2

• Quality over quantity
• What rather than who
• If need is not met, people suffer
• Evolutionary adaptive behavior

Question 3

Historical changes in relationships 1960 v Today

Answer 3

• Age at first marriage is older
• Fewer people are marrying
• more people are cohabitating before marriage
• more babies are born outside of marriage
• Most children live in a single parent household at some point
• More marriages end in divorce
• Most women are not currently married

Question 4

Does Cohabitation work?

Answer 4

Short answer no.
Co habitation before marriage makes more people likely to divorce
- sometimes

Question 5

Why does cohabitation not work?

Answer 5

• cohabiters are less traditional (self-selection)
• Cohabiters are less committed, more conflict, more infidelity
• Higher risk of breakup than marriage
• longer cohabitation, less likely to marry and more accepting of divorce less positive views of marriage

Question 6

What led to changes?

Answer 6

• Socioeconomic development
• individual
• Advances in technology
• sex ratio, High= more men than women, Low= more women than men

Question 7

Technology and Relationships

Answer 7

• More “ambient awareness” of others
• I’m so totally, digitally close to others
• fewer face-to-face interactions, eliminates non-verbal cues
• Much of interactions/relationship ate far more public, thanks to cell phones, social media, blogs
• more impersonal/detached endings to relationships

Question 8

Attachment

Answer 8

• Attachment styles
  secure, Anxious-ambivalent(pre-occupied), avoidant(fearful or dismissing)
• Early relationship experiences shape expectations for later relationships
• Two possible sets of dimensions,
  -Avoidance of intimacy/Anxiety about abandonment
  
  • view of self/view of others

Question 9

Why does attachment matter

Answer 9

• More positive beliefs and expectations
• Better communication skills
• Better at coping and caring for others
• Better sex
• Better personal well-being
• Higher/relationship satisfaction

Question 10

Sex Differences

Answer 10

• Are men really that different from women, NO

Question 11

Sex Similarities

Answer 11

• Most “differences” are very small
• Statistically v. Practical differences
• Men and women are more different from others of their same sex from each other
• Overlap is dramatic, so will always be higher and lower than the “average” member of the other sex
• “Other” sex, not “opposite” sex

Question 12

Gender Differences

Answer 12

• Sex v. Gender
• Most “sex differences” are taught and learned, not biological
• Even biologically, more support for gender as a spectrum than a dichotomy
• Gender is a contradiction, There is no essential gender, and also gender is essential
• Gender roles and gender stereotypes
• Masculine/instrumental traits v. feminine/expressive traits
• Androgynous
• Contrived incompatibility, Ultra masculine and ultra feminine couples won’t work

Question 13

Personality

Answer 13

• Personality is relatively stable over the life course
• Big Five traits
  1. Extraversion
  2. Agreeableness
  3. Conscientiousness
  4. Neuroticism
  5. Openness to experience
• Some people are easier partners than others
• Some people bring out the best in us, others the worst