Hdfs chapter 10

Question 1

what is Ostracism and what does it lead to? Does it work? why is it painful?

Answer 1

Giving someone the “cold shoulder” or “silent treatment”; it leads to harming the relationship; it hurts because itundercuts the sense of trust, safety, and value to another person

Question 1

what are the 7 degrees of relational evaluation? Examples?

Answer 1

Maximal inclusion, Active inclusion, passive inclusion, Ambivalence, passive exclusion, active exclusion, maximal exclusion

Question 2

What is jealousy composed of ?

Answer 2

Hurt, Anger, Fear

Question 3

Types of jealousy

Answer 3

Reactive (harm in the relationship), Suspicious jealousy(no actual threat)

Question 4

Factors of getting jealous?

Answer 4

• Gender differences (none)
• Dependence (more dependent more jealous)
• Sense of inadequacy or self - esteem
• Attachment style
• Personality traits
• Value placed on sexual exclusivity

Question 5

What makes us jealous?

Answer 5

• Friends are worse than strangers
• Former partners are worse than new ones
• Those who are better than us, and particularly if they are better at things we wish we did well
• An “attractive” rival
  
  • What’s attractive for men (physical) versus women(status/money)

Question 6

What influences make us jealous

Answer 6

• Attachment styles
• Gender differences
  
  • Women image enhance when they are jealous, work to improve relationship to draw partner back in
  • Men ego enhance, rather than focusing on being a better partner they will get in a fight, cheat, or leave, protecting their ego

Question 7

What are good ways to respond to jealousy?

Answer 7

• Realize that jealousy isn’t a good indicator of how much you love someone
• Be secure in yourself as a worthwhile person
• Increase self-reliance
• Use self-bolstering
• Use good communication skills