background of existential psychotherapy
not a formal school but rather a disposition that can be integrated with other formalized approaches to therapy. represents a way of thinking about the human experience. They zoom out and ask what it means to be human.
foundational philosophers of existential psychotherapy
kierkegaard and Nietzsche first think about what it means to be a person in the 19th century, then Sartre and marcel continue in the 20th
timeline of existential psychotherapy
1940s and 1950s rollo may and erich fromm publish books that explore existential ideas. May is the first to bring existentialism to psychology
1958: rollo may, ernest angle, and henri ellenberger publish existence: a new dimension in psychiatry and psychology
1980: irvin yalom publishes the first textbook in existential psychotherapy
1988: society for existential analysis is formed in the uk and publishes a journal
what did rollo may think about existentialism becoming a psychotherapy
Once a person describes himself as an existential psychologist he is no longer existential. Classifying people is totally existential. The existentialists are most of all against the objectification of human beings. Result of industrialism. That is why Sartre rejected the Nobel prize. Talking about it is completely unexistential.
current disposition regarding existential psychotherapy
Understanding psychological distress, in part, arises from “a confrontation with our existence” that confronting the reality that we are responsible for who we are and what we become can be uncomfortable. Only reflecting on mortality can we learn to live.
broad theory of personality
We are meaning making beings who are subjects of experience and objects of self reflection. Meaninglessness makes us uncomfortable. We become trapped by some meanings that we didn’t make.
emotions and behaviors that constitute personality can be in or out of awareness and thus may conflict with our actions - we can live in authentic or inauthentic ways with our emotions and behaviors.
central conflict that leads to the theory of personality is between the individual the ultimate concerns of existence. Existential psychology attends to how each individual deals with these ultimate concerns
psychoanalytic theory of defenses vs existential theory of defenses
psychoanalytic theory poses that there is a drive which leads to conflict between the drive and society or superego which leads to anxiety then defense.
existential theory poses something very different: that there are four ultimate concerns that lead to anxiety which lead to defenses.
both say that anxiety precedes defenses but existential says that the cause of anxiety is different. they agree when confronting anxiety people respond with defenses, but there is no innate drives - there is no supposed to be, rather you are born to confront these ultimate concerns.
what are the four ultimate concerns
freedom, isolation, meaning, death
we are born with total freedom, completely isolated, left to make our own meaning before we die.
it is the reality that these four things are inevitable responsibility for all humans to confront. doing so determines our psychological health.
freedom
we live in a world with no inherent design. we have come into the world and now we will decide what the design of the world is.
Issues arises when we think the culture is the inherent design.
there are some givens like the actions of others or where we are and whom we came from, we can’t choose the givens but we can choose how we respond to them, we can choose what we learn or where we grow and how we can live our givens.
freedom requires taking responsibility and living with intentionality. living without taking responsibility is living with bad faith, we often do so and give up responsibility.
this leads to failure of will
failure of will
failures of will give rise to pathology
impulsivity: acting without intention or conscious will. often people act so impulsively they don’t realize how much agency they have
compulsivity: occurs when we get so stuck in willing that we start to do things that are not helpful, ocd has a real will behind it, a real intention to achieve something, but it has gone too far
decisional panic: choice paralysis
isolation
requires balancing the knowledge of ultimate loneliness that is human being but also the wish for contact
what are the three kinds of loneliness
interpersonal: we are separate from other people. No matter how hard we try to be empathic, we will never full embody the consciousness of someone else
intrapersonal: we are isolated from ourselves, there will always be parts of ourselves that we don’t fully know, it is our job to minimize these parts and know ourselves
existential loneliness: there is a piece of our loneliness that occurs completely alone: recognizing there is a piece of our existence that is separate from all else. I am born alone and I die alone, I am estranged from the world
defenses people use against isolation which are maladaptive
craving witness: relying on the witness of others, while you can to some extent want to be with others you must examine the why
fusion: losing sense of self in someone else. think it is a fear from isolation.
psychoanalysts would say it comes from early caregiving experiences
one can empathize without agreeing or taking on the personal attributes of another person
meaninglessness
root question, how does a being who requires meaning find meaning in a universe that has no meaning?
We are meaning making beings in ways that we are unaware of. (ie family, religion ect.) goal is to be conscious and willful in the meaning you make.
We create value systems, whether it be culture, family, religion, etc. The goal is to be conscious and willful in the meaning you make. Also construct meaning through awareness of death. Finding patterns in seaming random stimuli, creating causal relationships.
death
ultimate existential concern, core inner conflict. May - as soon as we are aware of our existence we must be aware of the possibility of not existing. This creates an uncomfortable inner conflict. Most of the time confronted with a near death experience or seeing it in a loved one, someone close to you, exposure to death which makes it impossible to ignore. Most of the time we don’t do the hard work to confront the ultimate concerns but rather use maladaptive coping mechanisms.
Denial based defense:
specialness - I am confronted with information that tells me I need to confront my own mortality, here one claims I won’t die, I am special and it won’t happen for me,
ultimate rescuer - somebody is watching out for us, waiting for us, or taking care of us after death.
broad disposition in the theory of psychotherapy:
the therapist and patient are fellow travelers: the therapies is doing this work too. they need to be further ahead than the patient, but the are doing the same work of confronting the ultimate concerns together. Empathy is very important.
goals of existential psychotherapy
understand unconscious conflicts
identify defense mechanisms
discover their destructive influence
develop other ways of coping
find tolerable levels of anxiety and use them constructively
emphasize the here and now, care about the past to the extent that it helps us understand what is taking place now - here depth means what is the most pressing at this moment.
methods of existential psychotherapy
it is a framework to understand suffering, not a comprehensive system of techniques, integration with other treatments works well by focusing on the ultimate concerns and managing anxiety in the face of those concerns.
addressing the four ultimate concerns and failure of willing
addressing freedom as a method of psychotherapy
point out instances in the moment - stopping people in real time regarding instances of giving up responsibility,
correcting can’t to won’t
inquire about the patients role
encourage ownership over actions, thoughts, and feelings. This made me feel this way - did it make you or did you have a role and choice in reaction
addressing freedom with failure of willing
correct the inability to wish by helping people identify what they wish for.
reduce impulsivity, help people distinguish between when it is time to act on a wish and when that action is coming too quickly, ask where the urge is coming from and the goals of the urge,
help patients decide, come to terms with the idea that alternatives exculde and uncertainty in decision outcome
addressing meaning
help patients focus on value beyond themselves, develop concerns and curiosity for others, remove obstacles to whole-hearted engagement
addressing death
awakening experience - occurs only in confronting death can we truly begin to live.
they will ask people to look back onto their lives and examine their regrets,
choose toward a lived life
psychotherapy methods for addressing isolation
balance isolation and support, reciprocity and mutuality, bring a fellow traveler mindset, authenticity, we see the therapist acting authentically in front of the patient, alone together
mechanisms of psychotherapy
focus on the here and now,
empathy,
fellow traveler