Chapter 9- Close Relationships

Question 1

Attraction Theory-

Answer 1

3 forces that guide attraction to each other.

1. Proximity
2. Interpersonal Attractiveness
3. Similarity

Question 2

Attraction Theory:

1. Proximity-

Answer 2

Become friends surround you, not far away.

Question 3

Attraction Theory:

2. Interpersonal Attractiveness
   
   • Social Attractiveness-
   • Task Attractiveness-

Answer 3

• Social attractiveness- social skills, being friendly, open.
• Task attractiveness- co-worker. Work in similar way.

Question 4

Attraction Theory:

3. Similarity
   
   • Complementary-
   • Competency-

Answer 4

• Complementarity- Opposite works as long as what is opposite is complementary.
• Competency- More attract to people w/ flaws since it remind us of ourselves.

Question 5

Uncertainty Reduction Theory-

Answer 5

Understanding how people forms relationship by strangers communication.

Question 6

Uncertainty Reduction Strategies.

- Passive-

Answer 6

unobtrusive (un-coercive).

Question 7

URS:

Active-

Answer 7

Third party questioning or cyber bullying.

Question 8

URS

Interactive-

Answer 8

Directly ask the person Qs.

Question 9

Social Exchange Theory

Reward - Cost

Answer 9

Profit over Loss.

Question 10

SET

Rewards-

Answer 10

Tangible and intangible. Companionship.

Question 11

SET

Cost-

Answer 11

Tangible and intangible. Time, lose friends…

Question 12

SET

Comparison level-

Answer 12

What you consider a minimal expectations, needs, and desires…

Question 13

SET

Important Points-

Answer 13

Everyone of us weights reward and cost differently.

Question 14

Equity Theory-

Answer 14

We want a relationship where the other have same reward/ cost ratio than us.

Question 15

Knapp’s Stages of Relational Development

1. Initiating Stage-
2. Experimenting Stage-
3. Intensifying Stage-
4. Integrating Stage-
5. Bonding Stage-

Answer 15

1. Introduction to someone.
2. Sharing low risk info. Small talk to each other.
   • Goal- see if you can go further.
   • Small talk- if have nothing, then move along. If there’s something in common, then move to third stage.
3. A date to know each other. Share something together.
4. Become a couple.
5. Ceremony.

Question 16

Knapp’s Stages of Relational Deterioration

1. Differentiating-
2. Circumscribing-
3. Stagnating stage-
4. Avoiding stage-
5. Terminating stage-

Answer 16

1. When couple increase their interpersonal distance.
2. Talk less about important things, talk about safe topics- no argument.
3. No growth involve in relationship. Becomes dull and routine.
4. Withdraw from other person.
5. Ends the relationship.

Question 17

Turning point model-

Answer 17

A kiss, a hug, “I love you”

Question 18

Relational Dialectics-

Answer 18

Opposing forces that are continuous and normal in personal relationships.

Question 19

Relational ideals-

Answer 19

Closeness, certainty, openness.

Question 20

Internal Dialectical Tensions-

• Connection-
• Predictability-
• Openness-

Answer 20

Tension as push pull.

• Autonomy (time spent together).
• Novelty (routine, doing the same thing).
• Closeness (self-disclosure).

Question 21

Ending Relationships
A Passing away-
B Sudden death-

Answer 21

A Slowly ending it.

B Ends abruptly.