Your openers should be _____________
Specific to her. Stay away from generic boring openers girls hear from every guy.
You can easily connect what she’s wearing with a certain decade, or some kind of cultural reference, or a movie/book character.
COMPLIMENT OPENERS = Kiss of Death
This happens to a lot of guys when they’re coming back from a break in game and are rusty; they open a girl and default to giving her a compliment and then stack, forgetting to tease, and it creates nice-guy day-game with no edge.
It sub-communicates to her that her SMV is higher and so you are trying to flatter her to make up for it. Instant attraction killer.
Observational Tease Open (Structure)
Attention
Context + Elephant (if necessary)
Observation + Tease
THE TEMPLATE
*observational tease if possible
A: “Excuse me” / “Hey, just a second” / “Hey, I hope you speak English”
C: “This is spontaneous of me. I was just off to meet my friend for some steak, when I saw you”
O: “and what I noticed about you is… ______” (or “I loved the…”)
Micro-Context Examples
“Walking to ___to meet my friend”
“Enjoying my coffee”
“Doing some shopping”
“Waiting to meet my friend”
“Strolling”
“On my way to meet a friend for steak”
Tease using outfit color
“that with your __red dress__, you looked just like a little strawberry”
Elephant in the Room
If there’s an elephant in the room, such as she’s waiting for a friend, busy working on her laptop, etc., call it out so you show you have enough social savvy to know what’s going on.
Do this after you’ve you say “this is spontaneous of me”. Example.) “This is spontaneous of me and I know you’re in the middle of working, but I was just off to meet my friend for some steak when I saw you….”
White –>
Marshmallow
Black –>
Penguin
Gray –>
Koala bear
Green –>
Pear
Yellow –>
Banana
Blue –>
Blueberry
Pink
Flamingo
Skinny legs
Flamingo
Small statute (petite)
Tinkerbell from Disney
Flamboyant colors
A parrot
Tease about how she looks like she’s on her way to or coming from somewhere. Ex., she’s dressed in an 80’s workout outfit
“you look like you just came straight from an 80s workout video with your little leotard”
She’s scantily dressed
“you look like you’re on your way to a __bikini contest__ dressed like that.”
She’s dressed up fancy
“you look like you’re on your way to the opera dressed like that
She’s wearing a 1980s power suit with shoulder pads
“and I loved the _1980’s power suit, with the shoulder pads, it just made me reminiscent of a period that I didn’t even live in”
If you can’t think of an observation off the spot, instead of saying “and what I noticed about you is…”, you can just say ___
“I thought you looked…interesting”
She was in a relaxed mood
“You looked so relaxed, like you just finished a yoga class, or perhaps you smoked a little weed…” [look at her in an accusatory way as you say it]
An exception to the kiss of death rule, a genuine specific compliment that has some element of teasing to it is fine, as that would be a push/pull.
For example, telling a girl “I loved the 1980’s power suit with the shoulder pads, it just made me reminiscent of a period that I didn’t even live in”. You’re subtly teasing her that her fashion is very out of style, but still saying you love it, so that is a push/pull.
