No 1: “Yes, And…”
The Yes part is you just acknowledging what she said as the topic of conversation.
The “And” part is just adding to what she said within that same topic.
For ex.) A girl might say ‘That was very confident of you the way you approached me”, I might respond with ______
“Yes, And…I’m also very, very humble too”
1 Most Common Mistake Guys Make in Any Conversation _____
Asking too many questions.
No 2: Statement/Question Loop
When she says something:
(1) acknowledge it
(2) make a statement about it
(3) ask a follow up question or make playful assumption.
Rinse & repeat this loop.
Ex.) You ask a girl what she’s up to and she respond “I’m just chilling today”
“Oh so you’ve been chilling, yeah that makes sense, you definitely look like the chilling lounging around type.
I could never imagine you working some city job doing 80 hours a week. I bet you do night shift work as security where you can just sit on your chair, and just read your book, maybe take a power nap every now and again, am I right?”
Key Takeaways for No 2:
(1) Instead of just asking question after question, make playful assumptions and statements and THEN you can follow up with another question after vibing on your statements/assumptions;
(2) Sometimes you can just make a statement and follow up with an assumption, so you don’t actually need to follow up with a question every time.
No 3: Description & Detail
Start being descriptive and colorful with what you’re saying.
Think about the 5 senses. It’s not only about what you saw, what did you hear? What did you smell? Touch, taste.
No 4: Tangents
You don’t have to be narrow/tunnel vision throughout the conversation. You can expand on what she says and branch off to other topics.
ex.) she brings up volleyball
You can acknowledge it, but if you don’t know much about volleyball, jump to “beach volleyball”, then pivot to beaches, then pivot to traveling. You went from volleyball to traveling.
No 5: Pattern Interrupt
To keep your conversations interesting, throw in a curveball now and again. Say the unexpected thing to keep her on her toes.
Ex.) When she asks me what you do for work, I’ll give a ridiculous answer like
“I sell cabbage on the street”
