At some point in the conversation (ideally after she’s hooked) you’ll want to find out her logistics so you can gauge if she’s an instant date, same day date, or # close.
“So what are you up to today?” (“later” if you’re aiming for same day date)
When to close?
Ideally you want to close on an emotional arc.
- She’s already asked a few questions about you.
- She’s laughed.
- Told you things about herself.
- She’s clearly having fun.
If she indicates she has some free time now and is keen –> INSTANT DATE (coffee)
“Look, I was going to go grab a coffee real quick, care to join me?”
Instant Date (Ramen)
“Do you like ramen?”
Her: Yes (if no then say “how about sushi?”)
“Well I was about to go eat ramen alone, but then you walked by and made me realize I deserve better company. Care to join me?”
If you’re not going for instant date you should default to ___________
A same day date because she’s more likely to come out the same day she’s met you because you’re more fresh in her mind.
Close or Same Day Date close (same structure):
- “You know what, I’m probably gonna have to take off soon.”
- “You have a very pleasant energy though, I like your vibe, so yea I’m gonna stay in touch with you. I’ll take your contact details (‘add you on whatsapp’)”
Playful Nickname in Phone
Tell her a playful nickname you’re going to save her as in your phone, using info based on your conversation.
Ex.) “I’m gonna save you as ‘the Slovenian Smiley Lawyer’”
If going for same day date –>
“I’ll message you. Are you around tonight?” (or in a few hours)
If she’s free –>
“Ok why don’t me and you go for drinks/dinner. Let’s meet at ____around say 8 o clock?”
If she’s busy tonight –>
Stick around for another minute or so and chit chat before departing.
Stick around for another minute or so after getting her #
You don’t want to leave immediately after taking her # or it could look like you’re just collecting numbers. Chit chat for another minute or so. You can use her area code/number as a topic or where she’s based out of or throw in another flirty line.
Ex.) of flirty line:
“You’re a lawyer, so I’m wondering, are we gonna have a professional relationship, or a casual one?”
[she knows the way I’m looking at her it will definitely be a casual one]
Finish Deep
“I’ll give you a hug. Really nice to meet you, enjoy your __X__. Take care.”
Frame Test: ‘I have a boyfriend’
“That’s ok, I don’t want to be your boyfriend. I’d rather just relax and enjoy each other without the heartache and the pressures.”
Frame Test: ‘why don’t you give me your number’
“Why would I put the burden of our connecting again on your shoulders? That’s the man’s job, not the woman’s”
Opening Text (sent 20-30 minutes later)
“Hey __callback humor__ girl, I liked your vibe”
“Enjoy exploring the gallery ;) - Chris”
