A healthy sex life is consistently identified as important for what?
lasting love
Sexual satisfaction is intertwined with what?
For newlyweds, what type of association?
For long-term couples, sexual satisfaction predicts what?
relationship satisfaction
bidirectional association
relationship satisfaction but not vice versa
On average, what happens to sexual desire as partnerships progress? Why? When does sexual frequency/satisfaction peak?
sexual desire declines as partnerships progress
natural part of aging, particularly for men
frequency/satisfaction peaks in the first year of a partnership and decline thereafter
What percentage of Canadian women report low sexual desire in the past 6 months?
40%
Why is sexual desire difficult to study?
highly influenced by social desirability
the case of sexual frequency and happiness
As intimate partnerships have become less centered on childbearing people tend to value what?
people value virginity less in potential partners
What is sexual frequency linked with?
greater sexual and relationship satisfaction
Are specific sex acts consistently linked to sexual satisfaction?
NO!
exception: mutual masturbation and oral sex
What is key in sexual satisfaction?
variety in one’s sexual repertoire
Men are more satisfied when who reaches orgasm
their partner
What act of intimacy after sex is linked with higher sexual satisfaction for men and women?
time spent cuddling/bonding
Couples with good communication report higher sexual satisfaction and frequency. Why?
communication allows us to experience intimacy with a partner (or not)
those couples with better communication are able to take advantage of opportunities for sex because they feel close to their partner already
What is non-monogamy?
umbrella term for relationships where partners are not sexually or romantically exclusive to each other, with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved
What is consensual non-monogamy?
umbrella term capturing all the ways partners experience sexual/emotional intimacy with multiple people
What are 3 different types of consensual non-monogamy?
swinging
open relationship
polyamory
What is swinging?
committed couples temporarily involving other people in their sex lives
What is open relationship?
explicit agreement among committed partners to pursue relationships with other people
What is polyamory?
ongoing consensual emotional and sexual relationship with multiple people
What is (if anything) different about sexual satisfaction in non monogamy vs monogamous couples?
sexual satisfaction may be slightly higher than monogamous couples
What is (if anything) different about relationship satisfaction in non monogamy vs monogamous couples?
relationship satisfaction does not differ compared to monogamous couples
How is satisfaction like in polyamorous relationships?
satisfaction with partners in polyamorous relationships is mostly independent
People have sex for a variety of reasons. How many reasons have been identified in past research?
237 reasons
Sex strengthens partnerships biologically how?
biologically through vasopressin and oxytocin
boosts relationship satisfaction for 3 days following sex (sex afterglow)
motivation for sex is KEY: approach versus avoidance motives
What does sex do to neuroticism and anxious attachment?
offset (vulnerabilities)